I realized that I couldn’t do my best if I was not at my best. No matter how talented you are, you too can’t do your best if you are not at your best! Things can’t be alright if you are not right. We can’t give or attract what we don’t have. Fortunately, we are resilient beings. Through prayer, meditation, reflection, fasting, and journaling, I worked my way back to “my normal.” My goal is not to be like anyone else, but to be the best me. I am now more confident than ever that we can have anything we want in this life, if we want the right things, are willing to do what’s right to get them, and have the will to work for whatever we want right now. We also need to have the right people in our lives.
Doing the Right Things
What do you want out of this life? Are your goals lofty or lowly, prideful or purposeful, serving others or self-serving, mediocre or meaningful? Working harder won’t get you closer to your bliss, if you are not on the right path. The goal is not necessarily the gold, but to have golden relationships, golden memories, and a life full of golden and meaningful service and accomplishments. I truly want to make a difference, but I also have financial needs, my challenge was to find the right balance. I can’t tell you how many times people contact me wanting me to speak for free, even though this is how I earn a living. No one would ask a doctor, lawyer, restaurant owner, or even a public servant to work for free. I learned that although my heart was willing to give it away, I had to set boundaries. I also had to really plan my time well. I had to ask myself, am I doing the right things that will move me closer to reaching my goals. Am I being truly productive or merely confusing activity with accomplishment? Once I set the right balance and the right boundaries, it gave me time to focus on the right things.
Doing What’s Right
Fortunately, my moral compass has been set on the right course for quite some time. I attribute this to a regular spiritual routine of prayer, reflection, and meditation and a genuine desire to “do what is right.” This was probably the most perplexing to me during my dark moments because I truly felt I was doing the right things, so why were things not turning out right for me. I realized that just because they weren’t turning out the way I’d planned, didn’t mean that they hadn’t turned out right way or the way there were supposed to in the grand scheme of things. If I were praying for guidance and being guided, perhaps the challenges were a way teaching me a lesson I needed to learn, making me stronger, or just simply redirecting my course. I had to have faith and just let go. So, if you are facing challenges, ask yourself first, “Am I doing what is right?” And if you can honestly say that you are living a life of integrity, making moral choices, and honest in your interactions with others, just stay the course. If, however, you have gotten off your moral track, then simply, get back on.
Doing What We Must Right Now
The third challenge is to make sure that we are doing something now and not procrastinating. Remember, “a body in motion stays in motion.” Sometimes we know what we should be doing, but allow things of a lesser value to take precedence. If we want to live on purpose, we must get our priorities straight. To do this, we must set value-based goals, have a plan, and then work that plan. This requires saying ‘no’ to people, things, and opportunities so that we can stay on track. We can’t be everything to everybody and still do the work that we were uniquely put on this earth to do. End the end, we will be responsible for getting our work done, no excuses will be allowed. Sometimes the window of opportunity is open for just a short time. And, if we don’t act, we lose that opportunity and have to wait for it to open again if ever. I have a strong belief that we make our own opportunities. I personally don’t wait for them to happen; I meditate, come up with a plan, collaborate with others, and create my own opportunities. As co-creators in creation, we have the power through our thoughts, deeds, and actions to manifest the kind of life we choose for ourselves. Every thought has the potential to manifest as reality, but only if we do the right thing, the right way, and do it RIGHT NOW!
The Right People
“No man or woman is an island.” We don’t stand alone; we are all connected. That being said, we still must choose carefully the people in our lives. Some people are there for a reason, others, a season, and a few are lifers. We must accept this fact. We sometimes outgrow our relationships. Sometimes we need new fresh relationships to stimulate new growth, perspectives, and possibilities. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care the most about cause us the most anxiety and grief. I had to let go of a long time relationship with a friend who hurt me very badly during a time that I was most vulnerable. It hurt me a lot because I was not prepared for it and it caught me off guard. They say we are to make new friends, but keep the old because one is silver and the other is gold. Well, I’ve learned that silver can tarnish and gold can rust. Relationships have to be two-way, giving and taking. I’ll leave it at that.