“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” -C.S. Lewis
Whether your current moment is merry or miserable, you must let go of it if you are to move on to the next. The miserable moments are only miserable when we label them that way. The merry moments are only that way because we decided that they were merry. This morning I was reflecting on last December and the changes that have occurred since last year this time. There have been so many. For one, there were people in my life last year that are gone this year. Two years ago at this time, we were mourning my nephew’s tragic and untimely demise at age 32. Everyone was wishing that they’d spent more time with him or that they had said and done things to let him know how much he was loved while he was there. Last year it is my step-mother who passed in July. She lived to be 85-years old. This morning I was reflecting on how she did not spend the holidays with us that last year before she passed. There were many reasons, but mainly our collective somber mood and the weather. Little did I know that we would not have another opportunity.
“It’s not life’s big planned events that make the big difference, it is the simple, intimate, and sometimes spontaneous things we do for each other.” Barbara Talley
While there has been significant losses, at the same time there has been significant gain. I am not the same person I was last year or the year before. I’ve been tested by trials and as they say, “The tree most pruned bears the best fruit.” Last year this time there was a fear and hopelessness that has now been replaced by faith and expectation. I have new relationships, new opportunities, and a new sense of valuing life’s little moments. I am better, mainly because I chose to be better. I know from my more than a half century of living that we must seize every moment. We don’t love, laugh, and enrich the world in the past or the present, we do it ONLY in the current moment. So seize it. I sure plan to!