How many times have you said, read, or heard this greeting, “Happy New Year?” Probably too many to count. And yet, how many times have you stopped to think about what will actually make you happy in this coming new year?
When you stop to really think about it, these words offer a blessing and perhaps a promise to all that say, hear, and heed them. Everyone has heard of the benefits inherent in affirmations. Well, “Happy New Year” is a wonderful affirmation. Most however don’t really think about the blessings and promises inherent in this familiar greeting. But, let’s change that; let’s focus on these three simple words: three thoughts, three promises; three reminders for the coming year!
The first blessing, promise, or affirmation is to be happy. Each of us must be clear about what makes us happy and focus on doing more of that. To get the answer, we must first ask the question:
“What do I think (know) will make me happy?” What you think about, you bring about!
Have you really thought about what makes you happy and allowed yourself to want it and bring it about? So many allow others to talk us out of our true dreams and desires. And, have you thought about how to make others happy? Too much thinking on only one’s own happiness can make you selfish. Too much thinking on only what makes others happy can make you a resentful, unhappy sacrificial martyr. That doesn’t make you happy either. We have to have balance. Being aware and concerned about our own happiness and that of others is intertwined anyway. Did you know that by being happy, you help others to be happy? Happiness is just as contagious as unhappiness. Did you know that there is a science to being happy?
Deepak Chopra described two types of happiness, the first was the happiness that we get from “getting what we want.” The second is the happiness we get from just “being our authentic spiritual selves” by acknowledging who we are and developing/sharing the gifts within us. The first type of happiness is dependent on outside events, circumstances, and people; the second is independent of these and more stable. The Chopra Center is offering a free 8-week course on happiness. You might want to check it out. Because in the end, isn’t happiness our ultimate goal?
The second promise is NEW! Things, ideas, and people change and some no longer serve a useful purpose in your life. Sometimes accepting the “new” means letting go of the “old”. Isn’t it great that we get to learn from the past and start anew, building on the knowledge gained from the past? Newness is built into the fabric of our universe. Each day when the sun rises we get a new day or gift of 24 brand new hours. We get a new month twelve times a year. And we get a new year every 12 months, 52 weeks, or 365 (approximate) days.
NEW implies a fresh opportunity. We get to start a new chapter in our lives. Some people approach the “new” year with the same old fears, hangups, habits, limiting beliefs and baggage from the preceding year. This is an opportunity or milestone to ‘let go!” The new year is an opportunity to draw a line in the sand and to say, “I’m starting all over; letting go; or becoming more serious or committed to the dreams and aspirations I’ve chosen. No one wants to feel like a quitter or that they are giving up, and making changes now helps you to avoid that stigma. A new year gives us that opportunity. And while we don’t have to wait for the turning of the calendar page to turn over a new leaf, it is a special time that we have support, reminders, and the inspiration to do so. Some things in your life need to be ‘new’ and some things needs to be “renewed”, reaffirmed and recommitted to. You decide!
2014 is the gift of another year to make our mark, to make a difference, and to make our lives and the lives of those around us more meaningful. What do you want to accomplish this year? What are you committing to accomplish this year? What do you want to become? What do you want to give? What do you want to feel, attract, or experience? Bless yourself by taking some time right now (or carving out in the near future) to decide how you are going to spend this brand new year! Make sure your goals are SMART. In my next post, I’ll share about how to make SMARTER GOALS. Until then, “Happy New Year!”