12 Tips for Overcoming Your Fear of Going into Business

This is 2014, I celebrate 27 years of being in business for myself.  In this series I share twelve  tips on how to not be afraid to go into business.  The first four are: Facing Fear, Having A Compelling Why?, Opportunity, and Timing.

  1. To Fear or Not to Fear Is Not the Deciding Factor:  I started my business in 1987 and I can’t honestly say that I wasn’t afraid back then, for I’m sure I felt something venturing into the unknown.  I could name that energy excitement or name it fear.  But, what I’d like to say about fear is, even if you are afraid, DO IT ANYWAY! You will be afraid sometimes; that’s life.  The only way to overcome fear is to face it. If you allow all of those negative “What If” questions to take hold, you’ll never go into business.   Sometimes that fear is cathartic; other times it’s cancerous.  If it points out essential knowledge, skills, and resources you need, acknowledge it and then figure out how to get what you need.
  2. Our decisions are either FEAR-based or FAITH-based, one excites you, the other paralyzes you.  But in the end, fear is only a thought.  You have to consciously focus on that thought in order for it to derail you.  So the solution is clear. Don’t focus on what you fear or don’t want!  If you want to start a business, you have a lot to be thinking about, the name, the business structure, the product, the team, the marketing (benefits), the money, the audience, the delivery method etc.  Will you go it alone or will you choose at network marketing company. Once you decide you have something viable to offer, focus on that and you’ll have very little time left over to just worry.
  3. Must Have A Compelling Why?– Begin by asking yourself the question, “Why do I want to go into business?” The answer to that question must be compelling enough to carry you through the fear, the doubt, the naysayers, the frustration, and the despair that you will no doubt experience at some time.  My “WHY” was that I wanted to work at home, to be able to guide and protect my kids.  I didn’t know how I was going to do it at that time.  In retrospect, none of that really mattered anyway.  The universe takes care of ‘how’ for committed faithful people.  I just had to DECIDE to do it and set a goal.  If you’ve got something that the world needs, share it! My compelling ‘WHY’ was to save my kids and I didn’t want them to be latch-key kids.  My “WHY” kept me going through the fear.
  4. Seize the Opportunity and Just Do It!= There will never be a perfect time to go into business.  Although I had set a 6-year goal to go into business, I actually accomplished it within a couple of years.  I had to decide to do it and then start doing it. I’d like to say I had a great plan, but I didn’t at first.  Some read a book about how to drive and then drive.  Others, like myself watch other people and then just do it.  I learned how to be in business by “just jumping in.  It was “sink or swim,” so I learned how to swim.  Now if you’ve got the option to dip your feet in the water, by all means, do that if that will ease your fear.  Now, I’ve found that only serious wholehearted and unlimited faith, hard work, and tenacity will keep you going, but first you’ve got to get going.
  5. Don’t Wait for the Perfect Time– There never will be a perfect time.  And, it was not the perfect time for me either.  I was 7 months pregnant, laid off from my job, had a teen on drugs,  had no money to start a business, and within a couple of months I would be giving birth to my 5th child.  But, I didn’t allow excuses into the equation;  I focused on my ‘WHY.”  I had to act like I was in business.  So I started telling folks, setting up my office, and preparing myself.  Word, got around and I got some business and was “in business.  Continue

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   To find more about me, check out my promo sheet or visit  my website.

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Barbara will be speaking Thursday May 8, 2014 in Germantown on the “Power of Words.”

7 Things Roxie Did: It Was The Best of Service

I hadn’t had a phone in a month, and at the time of writing this, I still don’t have a working phone.  And,  yet I hugged the service rep at least four times happily.  How is this possible?  For those of you that can’t live without your phones for a day, you’re probably confused by my response. Companies spend millions on customer service training and yet, every one of us probably has our own list of horrible customer service stories. My worst, up until this recent one with my phone company had been with an American Airlines employee for treating me so horribly (when I was pregnant) prior to a flight.  It was so bad that I’ve avoided that airline for years. The second worst, was with Dell for a problem with my laptop.  But the winner, by a mile, is Verizon Wireless.  I cannot believe their lack of attention to customer service.  From the long wait time on the phone, to the refusal to get back to customers who have been waiting for days for a response when they’ve promised them a resolution, to the insensitivity to the customer’s plight in the Verizon ‘Authorized Dealer’ stores. Have you ever been so frustrated that all you could do was scream or cry???  Well that’s how I’ve felt over the past month because I have not been able to use my cellphone.  To read the gory details, check out my past article, Phone Nightmares: It Was the Worst of Service.

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So, you’re probably wondering about the title of this post?  No, it isn’t an error. It just shows how one person can make a difference.  I’d been without my phone for a month and went into the Verizon Wireless Authorized Dealer yesterday to get some service on my phone that I’d pick up one week earlier. Unfortunately, I hadn’t realized until I got home, that the phone could not make or receive calls. I had submitted a ticket to Verizon Wireless over the phone  four days prior and they not only hadn’t fixed the issue but they hadn’t even responded with an update. So, I decided to wait a few extra days to go into the store on Sunday to interact with the salesperson, Roxie, who had given me the phone.  She was pleasant as I poured out my problem as I explained how Verizon had promised to take care of my problem, but hadn’t.  She got on the phone and spent an hour trying to resolve my issue and get me a working phone. However time was running out. I had to leave and the process would take an additional two hours to complete and resolve.  To compound the issue, the store would be closing at 5pm, less than an hour away.

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This is where the amazing service kicks in.  Roxie really understood my dilemma and owned it with me.  She offered to stay the two hours, past her shift and get my phone working.  NOW HEAR THIS, she then offered to bring my phone to me at my home afterwards. Imagine the scenario; I was distraught as could be but then she offered to do something so kind and generous. Now, I don’t really know her and was wondering for a moment if I should leave the store without any phone at all.  Since she only works  on Sundays, if she doesn’t follow through,  I’d have to go another week without any resolution.  But, I decide to trust her.  Turns out that she is trustworthy. She was honest to her word. She stayed in the store until 7pm, got my old phone to working, and then delivered it to my home.  I’ve never witnessed such customer service like this. She renewed my faith at a time when I had lost all hope of getting a phone.

Now the irony is that when I tried to charge the phone this morning, I realized that the charger doesn’t work and I am still without a phone, but somehow I’m okay.  It was that unexpected act of kindness that changed everything.  Thank you Roxie!  You made my day!  Here are few things she did and did extremely well:

  1. SHE LISTENED! She didn’t cut me off when I was venting.
  2. SHE HEARD ME! She let me be heard. She could hear that the data was important and worked to retrieve it.
  3. SHE SPOKE CALMLY! She explained that she was just a representative and not responsible for the phone service but would do what she could.
  4. SHE EMPATHIZED! She was doubtful at times herself about getting my new phone to work. But she had really heard me when I said that I was even more distraught at losing my video testimonials. So she went into the back of the store, found the old phone, and changed the batteries to see if she could retrieve my data. Turns out, that she could.  That calmed me.
  5. SHE OWNED THE PROBLEM WITH ME! She took her time and didn’t try to rush me out the store with the responses she was hearing from Verizon and her manager.  She kept offering suggestions.  “Can we give her a loaner phone?”  “Can we set up a temporary account?” “Can we switch back to the old phone?
  6. SHE WENT THE EXTRA MILES (Literally)! This is where she excelled. Not only did she stay two additional hours to get me a phone that worked. She even drove the phone to my home.  When it was clear that it would take longer than she’d expected, she called me on my home phone so that I would not worry needlessly.
  7. SHE CARED!  And if that were not enough, she gave me her personal cell number to use if I had any further problems. That told me that not only did she care, but she was invested in my problem and that I was not alone.

I know that this is an anomaly! But, I believe that we also create or attract people and events into our reality.  My next post will explain what I was doing to attract this goodness into my life.  Not only was I consciously praying, I was doing something else I’d just learned about. It amazed me when I heard about it and astounded me when it actually worked! I’ll share in my next post this incredible finding.

Barbara Talley
with Another Message That Matters

Phone Nightmares: It Was the Worst of Service!

Screen Shot 2014-03-10 at 10.02.24 AMWhere do I begin. “Uggh@$&^@!!  First, I haven’t been able to use my cellphone for over a month!!!!  Some of my friends wonder in amazement how I’m able to be without a phone for a month because they admit they wouldn’t be able to be without their cellphones for a day.  ‘SD Card Unexpected Dismount’ or something to that effect appears on my phone this morning. This is the error that greeted me and had been greeting me intermittently over the past six months. That was, until it died altogether and after all I’ve been through UG#(#$($**.  I believe the phone would be chargeable, IF the charger were working which I didn’t realize wasn’t working when I left the Verizon store YESTERDAY.  I’ve only had this charger a week and have only used it once during that time!

FLASHBACK! This saga began over 18 months ago when I purchased a phone from a Verizon Wireless ‘Authorized Dealer.’  In retrospect, that was probably my first problem, I’m told.  The second mistake I made was in trusting the salesperson who initially talked me out of buying an I-phone which I was seriously considering. He gave me a host of plausible reasons why I shouldn’t get it. So,  since he was the expert and I was clearly out of my element, I trusted him. The Motorola Droid phone he recommended and I purchased  worked fine for a while but very soon I realized that it wouldn’t hold a consistent charge. I took it back to the store and was given excuses like, “Turn down the brightness,” or “Close the open apps.”  This I did, but to no avail.

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As I traveled quite a bit as a speaker, the phone became my GPS, companion, and business partner on long trips.  The problem was that it would not even hold a charge for a full day.  If I were traveling for a day trip, my phone would always die before I got to my destination even if I made no phone calls. My daughter who had an I-phone could use the GPS, play music, and even games and her phone would last for days.  I realized something must be wrong! To exacerbate the problem, my cigarette lighter (used for charging) did not work all the time, so having a phone that held it’s charge was crucial. I  just stopped using my phone for phone calls on a long trip, but soon learned that it still wouldn’t hold the charge even if I made zero calls.  I’d start out early in the day traveling and it would be dead before I reached home.  What’s the point of having a phone if you can’t trust it to be there and you can’t make calls on it?  Well, I took it back to the store several times over the first year until finally it stopped working and they reluctantly allowed me to use the service agreement I’d paid an additional $100 for upfront for.

I wasn’t too happy to have the store tell me that they no longer offered the service plan I was under anymore and had to call the manager to see how to help me thereby wasting more of my time in the store.  Finally a salesperson named Roxie got a manager to agree to replace the phone but I was charged an additional $49 to exercise that option.  By that time, it’s September 2013 (I’d gotten my phone the previous March) and they informed me that I have to pay an additional $149 to replace a phone that has worked less than 50% of the time that I’ve had it. First, they tried to get Verizon to replace, but the year was up, then they decide to let me use my warranty. I’m not pleased with paying anything more, but I acquiesce.  However, they only offered me two replacement options, one is the HTC and the other was some other 3g model that they used for prepaid phones.  Since my Motorola Droid being replaced was a 4g, I went with the HTC 4G. This time I did my due diligence and spent a few days researching the two models and made my decision on the one that seemed the best.   While in the store, the HTC  seemed okay, but soon after I started getting the ‘SD Card Unexpected Dismount’ error. I took it back to the store and was advised to just turn the phone off and on again.  I also explained that my media was mysteriously disappearing and then reappearing ( music, pics, and video). They said I just needed to make sure I turned the phone completely off every day to reset.   

htcSo, again I left the store and made about three more trips back to complain over the next three months, since the ‘SD’ error kept appearing and my data kept disappearing. Finally in early February 2014, I’d had enough, when one day the phone just stopped working altogether.  Meanwhile there was so much turnover in the store that every time I went I got a new person which I had to explain the distressing saga too and waste more hours of my time.  A nice young man named Vincent in February promised to take care of my situation and ordered a new phone. Sadly however he couldn’t get my old phone to turn on so I had to lose some very important video testimonials I’d gotten after a class I’d taught.  He told me a new phone would be in within 7-10 days during which time I would not have a phone unless I purchased a new one which he was happy to show me. I went into the store nine days later, and my phone was still not there.  A young man who said he was from the Frederick office was minding the store and said that my phone had still not been sent out from the warehouse and to wait a few more days. That was a Wednesday, I waited until that Sunday, March 1, 2014 and went in to see if it had arrived.  It had.

72 hourRoxie, the lady that had put in my request from the Motorola when it stopped working back in November remembered me and got my phone for me but couldn’t transfer data from the old phone since the old phone would not even turn on. After spending more than an hour in the store, I had to leave. She advised me to use Verizon Cloud to back up my data and to let the phone charge fully when I got home.  That’s exactly what I did! BUT then I tried to make a phone call and it would just ring and hangup.  If someone tried to call me, I’d see the number and it would hang up.  I haven’t had a phone since mid February and now it’s March and I still don’t have a phone.  I  decide to call Verizon myself but they have me on the phone for hours.  First you have to wait 20-40 minutes for someone to just answer the phone, then you’re transferred to this one and that one. It wasn’t until Monday that I reached someone. They couldn’t help me and put in a service ticket which they said would take up to 72 hours. “Goody!  Imagine my joy at having to wait another three-day to use my phone.”  I patiently or impatiently wait until Thursday to hear from them after the 72 hours would have passed, AND NOTHING!!! NADA!!!

I decide to wait until Sunday, March 9th and take the phone back to the store because Roxie works on Sunday and would be familiar with my problem.  She is there and listens patiently to my distress. She is the only one working and tries to give me focused attention as other customers come and wait to be serviced. I tell her to help a couple of people who appeared to have a quick need and then she focuses on me again.  For over an hour, she’s on the phone with Verizon, and her Assistant Manager in Frederick trying to resolve my issue. It appears that the new phone gets some new problem as she is following their directions and those directions created some new problems. I look over the counter and see this scrolling data on my phone as if a computer program were processing.  This is new!

waitMeanwhile Verizon wants me to wait another 72 more hours and put in another ticket to figure out why the new phone won’t work. Roxie’s manager wants me send the phone back to whoever had sent it and get another. I’m almost in tears now, hearing the dialog. I say prayers silently to keep my composure.  I fish in my purse to only find a used tissue to damp the corner of my eyes to block the tears. I can’t believe what is happening! Roxie understands the magnitude and unfairness of the horror story unfolding, and says incredulously, “So I’m supposed to send this customer away and have her wait another 7-10 days for a new phone when she’s already been without a phone for a month?” “Can’t we just set up a new temporary account?” And, “Can’t you compensate her in any way for your troubles?”  Her eyebrows raise in disbelief over their answer which she repeats so that I can hear, “You want to credit her account $10?”  [BTW, they didn’t even do that!]

waitWhile she’s switching between phone lines talking to Verizon support and her manager, she’s troubleshooting herself and an unexpected twist unfolds. She had switched the batteries before the process began over the phone and realized that the old phone would work with the new battery. It does. Evidently, it was the battery all along on the old phone, plus that ‘SD error and my disappearing media’.  But my priceless video was still on the old phone which I’d been told was impossible to get back.  So she thinks that if we just switches the batteries from the old phone to the new phone once it finished updating  that I should be able to make calls and have a phone. To verify, she asks Verizon if she can just switch my number back to the old phone since the new one had some new serious error that we both had never seen before. Sounds simple, well it wasn’t, because she still needed a code from Verizon who said that the phone was in some kind of frozen state and that we had to wait 2 hours for that process to finish before she could transfer back to the old phone which they said, MIGHT work! Confused$**^&$#, join the club.  And to make matters worse, the store closes at 5pm and it’s 4pm at this point.

no phoneBy this time, I’m overwhelmed, feeling hopeless, and  really have to leave because I have guests coming to my home.  So, I leave the store, WITH NO PHONE AT ALL!  It’s now the next morning, March 10, 2014 and as I sit here writing this (and wasting more of my valuable time), I still don’t have a working phone.  But I’m not totally disgusted because something truly amazing happened which I’ll share in my next post, ‘It Was the Best of Service.’

Barbara

Who’s Got Your Back?

Who’s got your back, for sure?  AND, whose back do you have?  We are all connected and there is power in unity. We were designed to be there for each other and not just for self. Are you honest, loyal, and trustworthy to those people who rely on you (and to everyone else for that matter)? There is a logical reason beyond the obvious for developing qualities of honesty, trustworthiness, and loyalty. When we are habitually faithful in these virtues, we are sending out powerful loving energy to the universe and attracting back to us the kinds of people with similar virtues as us.

Remember, you attract not what you want, but WHAT YOU ARE.

Who's Got Your Back?Everyone needs someone who they can rely on and trust wholeheartedly to be there through thick and thin.  That’s what true friends and family are for.

If you can’t trust the people who say they are behind you, first check to make sure that you have been loyal to them as well. If you have, and the relationship isn’t reciprocal, then perhaps you need to find those who will have your back. Life is way to short to spend it with people who bring no value to your life and don’t value you enough to give the kind of loyal relationships you deserve.  Just something to think about!

Another message that matters from Barbara Talley.