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Dream Derailer #8a: Failure to Respect Our Visions as Sacred

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Visions Are Sneak Previews of Reality

Okay, you’ve prayed, wished, and hoped for something that would give your life meaning and certitude, and now you’ve experienced “that something” in a vision.  You see it in your mind’s eye, but it is not yet real.  You wonder if it is just a vain longing or if it is truly possible to achieve.  You want to believe it is possible, but you find yourself doubting and second-guessing yourself.

How much do you value and respect your dreams and visions?

When we respect something, we don’t take it for granted.  Have you ever thought about where a vision comes from? Humans have always held things as valuable that are rare and precious.  And, what could be more precious than getting a sneak preview of your future potential and possibilities?  We should feel honored to even receive a vision.  Visions come from another realm and because of that should be treated as sacred, for if they were from this realm, they would be visible now.  Our visions are a panoramic guide to show us what is ordained for us, for if we see it, it should make it easier for us to believe it.  And, only when we believe, will we receive.  If you don’t get visions, try spending more time in silent, meditative, and prayerful reflection.  In order to truly respect yourself, you have to respect your dreams.  Respect implies acknowledgment, faith in, and acting on them to bring about their manifestation.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #7: Wasting Energy Blaming Others

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Who’s Fault Is It?

Who is to blame for your lack of success, your mother, father, wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, sister, brother, friend, boss, children, the government…?  There is a never-ending list of people to blame if you’re looking for a scapegoat.  Just remember that blaming takes energy, energy that is put to better use making your dreams come true.

Take the Credit and the Criticism

When you succeed you will take the credit and when you fail that is also your honor.  If you want to be successful and keep on track and not get derailed, you must be responsible.  The only person that stands between and your dream is you. You may think that other people are blocking your way, but they only have the power that you give them.   The buck stops with you!  If you believe that the actions of others have the power to prevent you from succeeding, then your belief gives them that power and makes the statement true.  However if you believe that nothing can stop you, you will find a way around any obstacles you encounter and become stronger in the process.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #6d: Not Viewing Goals as Promises

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Is Setting a Goal a Promise or a Pretense?

This is the fourth consideration for the Commitment series.  How you view goals might make the difference between your success or failure.  Is your goal a serious well thought-out promise or are they just arbitrary, fickle thoughts that changes with the tides? Many people take seriously the promises they make to others, but do not take their own commitments to themselves as seriously.  Why is that? If you make a promise to a friend and break it, they will lose confidence in you.  Why do you think it would be different to consistently break promises to your own self?

How Much Is Your Word Worth?

It boils down to how much is your word worth?  This is the foundation of confidence, to know you can rely on yourself to produce.  You are the leading actor in your own unfolding drama called life.  You are also the director; you are responsible for calling the shots.  You are also the producer.  The success or failure of the program is in your hands.  You decide what your life (show) is going to be about and you write the script (set the goals). Then you commit, I mean really commit! That is, you make a promise to yourself and you keep it.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #6c: Can You Count on You?

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This is the third article in the series on the importance of commitment.  The real questions you must answer honestly for yourself are:

  1. Can you count on yourself?
  2. Would you bet your all on yourself?
  3. Do you believe in yourself?
  4. Do you take the commitments to yourself as seriously as those to other people?
  5. Is your word worth as much when it comes to keeping promises you make to yourself?
  6. Are the words you say to yourself encouraging, supportive, and loving?

Any answer other than “yes” is a possible, perhaps an even probable, dream derailer.  Do you remember how it feels to be let down by someone?  It is disheartening to say the least.  And, the closer that person is to you, the worst it feels.

How Many Times Have You Let Yourself Down?

Well, have you ever thought about the deleterious effects of not even being able to depend on your own self either?  How must that make one feel?  What do you think that does to one’s self esteem to realize that they can not even rely on their own self?  How many times have you let yourself down, set a goal and then ignored or abandoned it?  If you want to be happy, hopeful, and successful, be the one person you can rely on and trust.  Be honest with yourself.  If you make a promise through a goal, follow through on it.  Build that self-trust and with it your self-esteem and personal power.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #5- Succumbing to Negativity

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My dad used to always say, “Smile and the world will smile with you.”  A surefire way of getting off track with your dreams is to succumb to the negative people, beliefs, attitudes, and perspectives of those you come in contact with.  When we allow the negativity to take hold, we relinquish our power.

How do you see the world?

Remember the computer acronym, WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get).  Meaning, what you choose to see greatly influences your outcome.  Your power is in your perception and perspective.  If you believe you will succeed, you will!  If you see the glass as half full, it’s half full.  If you see it as half empty, that version can also become your reality.  The point is that you have free will and how you choose to see a situation paints your reality.  If you see the world as an unjust, hateful, unforgiving, and cruel place, that  will be your reality.  If you see the universe as abundant, beautiful, and loving, that perspective will color your world.  It is what you decide it is.

Negativity Comes in Many Forms

Negativity comes in all forms and all of them are dangerous.  Whether it is your thoughts, the people you choose to be in your inner circle, what you read, listen to, or watch, or just the physical environments around you, it all affects you.  There are inspiring people, uplifting thoughts, and nurturing environments just as there are negative thoughts, toxic people, and discouraging environments.  The point is, in order to stay on track and keep moving towards your dreams (in spite of all the obstacles), you’ve got to have the right attitude.  Our attitudes and outcomes are affected by the people we hang around with and the environments we choose to be influenced by, so choose them carefully.  We know how hard it is on us when others give up on us, so above all, don’t give up on yourself.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.