Absolutely PRICELESS or NOT?

This morning when I checked my email I found the following from a friend. It was titled, “Absolutely PRICELESS!”

Please read before destroying 
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—- Craig’s list ad–Read it closely folks… a good one…..should happen more often ……….
AN ACTUAL CRAIG’S LIST PERSONALS AD
To the Guy Who Tried to Mug Me in Downtown Savannah night before last. Date: 2011-11-27, 1:43 am. E.S.T.
I was the guy wearing the black Burberry jacket that you demanded that I hand over, shortly after you pulledthe knife on me and my girlfriend, threatening our lives.  You also asked for my girlfriend’s purse and  earrings.  I can only hope that you somehow come across this rather important message.
First, I’d like to apologize for your embarrassment; I didn’t expect you to actually crap in your pants when I drew my pistol after you took my jacket.. The evening was not that cold, and I was wearing the jacket for a reason.. my girlfriend was happy that I just returned safely from my 2nd tour as a Combat Marine in Afghanistan .. She had just bought me that Kimber Custom Model 1911 .45 ACP pistol for my birthday, and we had picked up a shoulder holster for it that very evening. Obviously you agree that it is a very intimidating weapon when pointed at your head … isn’t it?!
I know it probably wasn’t fun walking back to wherever you’d come from with crap in your pants. I’m sure it was even worse walking bare-footed since I made you leave your shoes, cell phone, and wallet with me. (That prevented you from calling or running to your buddies to come help mug us again). After I called your mother or “Momma” as you had her listed in your cell, I explained the entire episode of what you’d done. Then I went and filled up my gas tank as well as those of four other people in the gas station, — on your credit card. The guy with the big motor home took 153 gallons and was extremely grateful! I gave your shoes to a homeless guy outside Vinnie Van Go Go’s, along with all the cash in your wallet. [That made his day!] I then threw your wallet into the big pink “pimp mobile” that was parked at the curb ….. after I broke the windshield and side window and keyed the entire driver’s side of the car.
Earlier, I managed to get in two threatening phone calls to the DA’s office and one to the FBI, while mentioning President Obama as my possible target. The FBI guy seemed really intense and we had a nice long chat (I guess while he traced your number etc.).In a way, perhaps I should apologize for not killing you … but I feel this type of retribution is a far more appropriate punishment for your threatened crime. I wish you well as you try to sort through some of these rather immediate pressing issues, and can only hope that you have the opportunity to reflect upon, and perhaps reconsider, the career path you’ve chosen to pursue in life.. Remember, next time you might not be so lucky. Have a good day!
Thoughtfully yours,
Semper fi, (First to Fight)
Alex
Probably don’t have to ask you to forward this one,
it is priceless.
MY RESPONSE:
I read the ad, but for some reason I couldn’t share the glee that was intended.  I realized that it might sound like a joke to most and give them a reason to laugh, but instead I felt uneasy. Why didn’t I just laugh? It’s funny, right? The would-be criminal craps on himself and is totally humiliated and the would-be victim serves his own brand of justice without firing a shot. The cowardly criminal wields a knife and the tables are turned in the presence of a Kimber Model 1911 .45 ACP pistol. This ad ended with, ‘I’m sure you will forward this!”  While I was clear that I did not want to forward it, still I had so much uneasiness that I still had to respond. Something just didn’t feel right.  Instead of getting a good laugh, I found the carefully coded embedded innuendoes and the covert advertising for guns to be potentially quite dangerous, especially in today’s heated racial climate. I am concerned for the following reasons; It might go viral; It might make people more fearful; It fuels racism and the racial divide; It does nothing to create a dialog about the cause of violence; It will cause people to buy more guns and more innocents (especially innocent children) will die; And, IT IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE!!!!

  1. MY BIGGEST CONCERN IS THAT IT WILL GO VIRAL AS IS! I’m sure it will probably most certainly go viral again, because it has gone viral multiple times since 2009.  I’m more concerned that very few will check the validity of this story before sharing, personalizing and commenting.  I know, I too am quick to forward some conjured and sensationalized post. But, I don’t think we need to be entertained this way. And, I for one am slowly realizing the power of social media. We are responsible for what we post!
  2. Obama-End-Gun-ViolenceI think ads like this Craigs List one will provide the justification for more people to go out and buy a gun.  Most of those with their newfound fire power won’t be as creative as this quick thinking (recently returned marine veteran) and will just shoot whenever they feel fear or annoyance, perhaps on a boy walking home with skittles, or a 19-year old young girl who gets into an accident and banged on their door for help and is killed, or maybe an angry man at convenience store who will just fire his “legal weapon” into a vehicle because the music is too loud. The problem is this irrational fear of the color of an innocent suspect has caused the cops and too many “good innocent” citizens to shoot first and ask questions later.
  3. This picture perfect story (and it is a story) has no other intent but to instill more fear into the average person (who might just want to walk downtown Savannah trying to have a good time), that they too may be held up at knife point. Fear causes people to do more “justifiable killings” instead of using our judicial system to do its job. I fear we will have more of what is happening in the media to black and brown people. Now you might ask, why did I assume that the criminal was “black or brown?” Be honest, what did you think? The carefully coded words that were used to describe this attack are usually attributed to the ghetto or inner city which is usually habituated by people of color. Additionally the words, “Momma”, “homeless guy”,  “Vinnie Van Go Go’s”, and “Big Pink Pimp Mobile” do not bring up images of white suburbs. You don’t have to make it any more explicit, your subconscious programming will make that leap for you because of all of our previous programming and negative media portrayals.  Consider the following:

    a. “I called your mother or “Momma” as you had her listed in your cell,”
    b.  
    I gave your shoes to a homeless guy outside Vinnie Van Go Go’s, 
    c. I then threw your wallet into the big pink “pimp mobile” that was parked at the curb ….. after I broke the windshield and side window and keyed the entire driver’s side of the car.

  4. It potentially causes more racism and racial divide. Who do you think the people are in this ad? It paints the picture of a perfect scenario for why “guns” are a must for everyone of the “burberry jacket wearing folks” who want to venture out into the city because they might just run into this scenario. Let me ask you this, “Who do you picture wearing a bilberry jacket costing between $350- $2100?” Who do you think the criminal is?
  5. This alleged mugging takes place in Savannah Georgia, in the good ole South, home to the “good ole boys.” The population of Savannah is a little over 136,000 people.  The chances of becoming a victim according to the neighborhood Scout site is 1 in 26.  The National median when looking at crimes per square mile is 39.3, in Savannah it is 53!  Perhaps if I lived in Savannah, I’d consider getting a gun too! But, everyone doesn’t live in Savannah. Here are few more facts about Savannah, “White flight” came first after school desegregation. Middle- and upper-income white families left the city, moving onto the islands and west Chatham and later out into Effingham and Bryan counties for better schools. The next exodus is called “bright flight”and was triggered when upper- and middle-class African-American residents left for the same reasons: Fear of crime and the desire for better schools and newer homes.” 
  6. My first thought was that this little “vengeance is mine” story was actually concocted by the NRA or the gun sellers. And, that may be plausible, according to Snopes. The real author says, “I’m starting to see people alter the hell out of it for political and other reasons, and quite frankly, it irritates the shit out of me.” The carefully crafted wording in this so called ad turns would be victims into victors all through the power of a gun. In fact, the victor, “crows about having turned the table on his antagonist. The author here is not a passive target who ends up stripped of his valuables by a mugger; he is an intended victim who confronts his assailant with superior firepower.” [Source Snopes: see below]

    “This piece began its life as a 6 January 2009 post to Craigslist, a forum for local classified ads and discussions in more than 550 cities. It was quickly removed by that entity, lasting no more than a day or two on that site, but nevertheless was picked up and sent around in e-mail by those it resonated with.

    “There was no mugging: the whole tale was a work of fiction meant to help its author work off some steam from having had his home broken into. Of its creation, he says, “I mean, all it took was a couple of beers, some aggravation towards the local criminal population, and five to ten minutes at the keyboard.” He has since seen his fanciful tale reworked to further various agendas.  Over time, several different cities came to be named as the location of the felonious interaction…”

  7. Gun-Vigil-San-Francisco-22 And, unfortunately these guns get into the hands of children, who mimicking the games they play on the computer or see glorified in videos and television, too often accidentally kill members of their own families. Having a gun in this fictitious story gave the potential victim power. Without the gun, they would have lost their jacket and jewelry. But, are all the accidental deaths worth some jewelry and a burberry jacket? The ad glorifies the gun and makes a hero out of the gun toter. But, tragically, children 100 boys and girls aged 14 and under are accidentally killed each year because of guns getting into the wrong hands. Here a a few recent examples:
    1. On May 2, 2013, two years after this first went viral, a five year old kills his 2 year old sister.
    2. On May 2014, a three year old boy shoots and kills his one year old brother.
    3. On June 2014, in Virginia, a three year old shoots his twin brother. 
    4. On October 2014, a two year old boy was accidentally shot by his older brother.
    5. On November 3, 2014, in Ohio, a four year old shoots his three year old sister in the head.
    6. On November 2014, in Orlando Florida area,  a nine year old girl accidentally shoots her eight year old brother.
    7. Another young boy accidentally killed his brother just the other day.
  8.  Guns do not get at the root cause of this violence:  inferior education, lack of jobs, racism, mental illness, etc. While employing an “eye for an eye or a tooth for a tooth ” strategy might make some feel good and even be justified in a few rare cases, it will create in the biblical sense, a nation of “blind and toothless citizens.” Especially, if anyone who reads this article is emboldened to buy a gun for their protection in the rare occasion of a potential future mugging.
  9. One version of the Snope article ends with, “PS. An armed society is a safe society.”  Note; “Eighty-four percent of accidental deaths of children occurred in the home or car of the victim’s family, or in the home of a friend or relative. The United States has the highest rate of gun related deaths per capita among developed countries,[3]:29 though it also has the highest rate of gun ownership and the highest rate of officers. Over 1000 people are killed daily from guns in America.”
  10. And, finally it suggests that the person doing the mugging had money and was not just desperate, but a heartless degenerate career criminal looking to take advantage of innocent people. DO WE REALLY NEED TO MAKE UP THIS KIND OF STORY AND FOR WHAT PURPOSE DID THOSE WHO DID DO IT? (Please be clear that if this were true that I am excusing the criminal’s behavior.) However desperate people do desperate things.  How many real people in this situation wouldn’t have just shot first? The veteran states, he gave the would-be robber’s cash to a homeless man, and that the mugger had enough available credit on his credit card to fill up the gas tanks for multiple people including 153 gallons for one motor home. He goes on in this fictitious story to say, “I should have killed you!”  And, I’m afraid that some reading that email or ad were probably agreeing with him, picturing themselves in the same situation, and thinking, “I need a gun to protect those I love!”  More guns are not the solution to America’s many ills.  Priceless??????? I don’t think so, too many are paying the price with their lives!
Just my thoughts. What are your thoughts?
Barbara

Lessons and Blessings Are Around Every Corner~

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“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”

Are you ready?  I mean are you ready to live the life of your dreams? Are you ready to move beyond self-limiting thoughts and beliefs? Are you ready to accept your abundant blessings?  Are you ready to accept your lessons as guidance to unleashing your power? My wish for us today is that we all just “wake up” and realize that there are lessons and blessings around every corner. If we just open our eyes, our minds, and our hearts, we will learn the lessons we need to learn and begin receiving the blessings that we are heir too!

Life is abundant. There is enough of everything to go around. We don’t need to compete; we need only to realize that we are all connected, to collaborate, and to care about each other. This is what we call service. When we serve others, our blessings naturally flow. The more you give, the more you get! The greatest lie is that we are separate and need to battle or vie against each other to get our piece of a shrinking pie. The universe does not know limitation or lack; we create that reality of limitation in our own minds. It is that limiting perception that limits us because what we believe is what we ultimately get!

First of all where you are is where you need to be at this moment. All of your past life experiences brought you here. Everything you and I need to get to where we want to ultimately be is already here. When we focus on it with unwavering faith, we cause it to manifest. The reality is that your faith, belief, and expectations largely determine what you actually see. The mind and its tools of perception are designed to filter out and show you only what you believe, focus on, and think about. That means that just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean that it is not there!  And more importantly, it means that if you want something to manifest, focus your thoughts on what you WANT and not on what you don’t want.  When you learn to consistently focus on what you want, you will attract into your being everything you are destined to manifest. Remember, Lessons are around every corner. However, you may have to pass through a lesson first. So, don’t avoid the lessons because they lead to you to your blessings!

Barbara

SHARING A REFLECTION ON THE PATH TO MY CALLING

1458544_10152084457735649_447046796_nThis life is a blessing, a wonderful, awesome journey of discovery. Lessons and blessings are around every corner. The biggest challenge is to stay focused on our divinely inspired mission while making a living.

Sometimes though, I feel like I’ve been on a roller coaster for the past few decades, raising six kids, running a business, and performing service work. Life seems to be moving at a faster pace. Of late though, so much is happening so fast that I feel like I am mostly reacting to life instead of responding to my calling, but maybe that’s how it is when you finally getting close to your own flow.  Life will pull you in many directions to teach you lessons. Once you learn those lessons, you must have courage and the diligence to get back on or to stay the course.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Steve Jobs

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”
Steve Jobs

I’ve learned on my journey that people will try to convince me to use my positive and powerful energy to fuel THEIR dreams which leaves little or no energy for my own. I have been experiencing some cognitive dissonance of late because my mind KNOWS what to do, but I have not had the courage to limit the distractions from keeping me from doing what I know I was put here to do. Specifically, I am seriously reflecting on the Bahai quote about my calling.  You see, when you are capable of doing so many different things, it takes courage to say no and just focus on the “most important thing!” For example, I’ve been dissipating my energy on different money making strategies while my heart is calling to me to focus on my specific gifts and talents and to trust! If we ever want to become our “best”, we’ve got to trust that we can earn a living by our calling!

The best of men are they that earn a livelihood by their calling and spend upon themselves and upon their kindred for the love of God, the Lord of all worlds. (Baha’u’llah, Hidden Words, Persian 82)

Don’t get me wrong now. I am loving life because I am growing mentally and spiritually by leaps and bounds. It is important however for me to take time out and reflect on my calling. You too must make the time to find out why you are here on the planet. Each of us is a gift to the planet, a piece of the puzzle, a dot that allows the picture to be complete. We are each here for a reason and when we strive to figure out what that thing is, our lives transform. The Holy Bible speaks of our calling (vocation) and teaches us of the attitude of lowliness, meekness, and love that must accompany it. I have to ask myself, “Am I worthy of the vocation for which I have been called?”  If so, what am I doing about it? And a good question to ask to test if you are doing the right work is to ask, “Does my current work allow me to succeed if I choose to be humble, meek, peaceful and loving OR does it demand other more materialistic traits?

1 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, 2With all lowliness and meekness, with long suffering, forbearing one another in love; 3 Endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:1

“When the student is ready, the teacher appears” seems apropos to explaining my ongoing and continuous transformation. I am in awe that I have learned so much over the past year that I am almost not the same person I was a year ago.  You may not notice that much by looking at the physical, but the mental and the spiritual are flying. Some of that can be attributed to my accumulated wisdom, but a lot has been from the marrying of science and spirit, learning about my brain and how it works and understanding the “why’s” of life. Learning scientifically what prayer, meditation, faith, and belief do to the body and mind.  It’s like I was collecting puzzle pieces all my life and now they are finally fitting together.  Like Steve Jobs would say, “Trust that the dots will connect.”  In my life, the dots are connecting.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”
Steve Jobs

Perhaps it was my time or the reflection that one naturally goes through when they reach a certain age or stage of life. For me, I am have several major milestones at hand, one of reaching 60 and the other of getting close to seeing my last daughter preparing for college next year. Reaching another decade challenged me to re-evaluate at my life, my goals, and MY CALLING! In addition, I consciously put some goals on hold decades ago so that I could concentrate on my most important role of being a mother. I’m nearing completion of that most important sacred task. So now I have to re-evaluate if those long stagnant goals are still what I want to do.  Pray for me as I pray for you.

Barbara

If You’re in The RED, Listen UP!

The red dot represents the bottom 40% of Americans who are struggling to survive. After pondering over a recent article highlighting the glaring statistics of the dismal and widening wealth gap between black and white women aged 39-46 ($5 vs. $42,600), I had to stop and reflect on why this is. Then I realized that women have always been at the bottom of the social economic ladder and people of color trailing them.  The wealth gap is affecting everyone. Look at the red dot on this graphic of Occupy!  Black women and many people of color occupy the RED DOT. That means 40% of Americans are in the same boat!

wealth distribution

The current system is not designed to make the poor rich; it’s designed to make the rich wealthier.  It’s not necessarily because rich people are bad or greedy or that there is a shrinking pie and not enough to go around. One huge reason is because it’s extremely difficult to amass wealth on a small salary in an economy when the dollar is constantly declining in value and the cost of living is soaring!

There is a better way, and no one explains it better than Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad: Poor Dad on how to get out of the red dot zone and create wealth.

 

Remember, “If you keep doing what you are doing, you’ll keep getting what you are getting!” BUT, if you’re convinced, as I have become that must be a better way, check out ANOTHER WAY! Then send me a message via the contact form if you’re ready to do something about your circumstances!

Thanks, “I’m Barbara Talley, the Poet who speaks and inspires!”

Net Worth of Single Black Women $5 Compared to White Women $42,600!

ImageImagine not being able to take off a sick day, a mental health day to care for loved ones, or even a day to repair a major appliance WITHOUT GOING INTO DEBT! A new study released this week by a leading economic research group highlighted some startling statistics.  Single black women between the ages of 39 and 46 had a median wealth net worth of only $5.00.  Yes you heard me right, only $5.00!! Five dollars, Just enough to buy a $5 footlong. #SMH. At the same time single white women of the same age had a net worth of $42,600 (which is still only 61 percent of their single white male counterparts). 

Poverty at any age is a problem, but imagine being in poverty in the prime of your life.  How does that bode for one’s future?  Put simply, “If people are struggling to survive and have no wealth when they are most vibrant, healthy, and marketable, what’s going to happen to them when they age, have health problems, are laid off, have to take off to care for aging loved ones, or are discriminated against in the marketplace because of age? Consider that the average nursing home stay is over $83,000!  What can you do?

Wealth, or net worth, measures the total of one’s assets — cash in the bank, stocks, bonds and real estate; minus debts — home mortgages, auto loans, credit cards and student loans. The most recent financial data was collected before the economic downturn, so the current numbers likely are worse now than at the time of the study. Source Financial Juneteeth

Did you read that carefully, “The current numbers are likely to be worse now than at the time of the study!”  Worse than having a net worth of five dollars? The article challenges the myth that black women just spend more, explaining that the rising cost of living, lower wages, and being victims of subprime mortgages (paying up to 5x more) are major contributors.  Add to high credit card debt which stems from using borrowed credit for present day survival and emergencies and you’ve got the crisis you see unfolding.

This was even shocking to Meizhu Lui, director of the Closing the Gap Initiative based in Oakland, Calif., who contributed to the report “Lifting as We Climb: Women of Color, Wealth and America’s Future, “Even for those of us who have been looking at the wealth gap for a while, we were shocked and amazed at how little women of color have.”  Researchers at the Insight Center for Community Economic Development, based in Oakland, Calif., analyzed data from the 2007 Survey of Consumer Finances, and reported in Financial Juneteeth.  Consider these sobering remarks of Democratic Whip, Steny Hoya, addressing the ‘2014 Color of Wealth Summit’ hosted by the Center for Global Policy Solutions and the Insight Center for Community Economic Development

“According to a study last February by the Institute on Assets and Social Policy, which tracked the same set of families over a twenty-five year period, the wealth gap between white and African-American households nearly tripled.”While the median wealth of white families nationally was $113,149 that year, it was only $5,677 for African-American families and $6,325 for Latino families.”White Americans own homes at a rate 28.4% higher than African-Americans. While white households lost 12% of their wealth during the recession, Latino households lost a staggering 67%.

 

More Resources: Women of Color Wealth Future — Hoyer Remarks at 2014 Color of Wealth Summit

 

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   240-813-0522