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(Continued)Part 2: Seven Lessons Learned from Asking

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4. Asking Is Not Begging, It’s Choosing

So what are you neglecting to ask for?  Is it for more respect or better treatment, a raise or promotion, more help around the house, your debts paid, a new house, a new car, a new career,  or a better way to share your talents and natural gifts through meaningful service? One of the most  exciting things about life is that we get to choose.  But, I think we need to redefine what asking means.  Asking is not begging, or a sign of weakness, greed, discontent, or lack of appreciation for what you already have.

Asking simply signifies that you are taking responsibility for making your life magical, that you have made a choice, and that you are open to receiving your spiritual gifts and blessings.  That’s how polite people get what they want out of life.  They ask, they receive, they say, “Thank You.”  Choosing is a spiritual act that focuses your energy and power and attracts resources to you.

5. Refusing to Ask for Help Is Denying Others

Before, during and after the competition, I had to ask for help.  And, thank God that I was humble enough to ask.   Ric Ocasek wrote, “Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.” And aren’t virtuous actions the real source of our spiritual currency?  To my surprise several friends came to my aid with a greater commitment than I could have asked for.  I’d learned long ago that I am not alone.  But, even knowing this fact, I too find it hard to ask for help sometimes.  Thank God, that this time I asked.   When I first heard about the competition I needed help in making the decision.  I fortunately had people around me encouraging me to get in the game, affirming that what I had to offer was indeed valuable, and offering their support.  This made it easy to make the decision.  But even then, I still needed a video.

6. Asking is a Sign of Faith, Wisdom, and Trust

I prayed, meditated, and a person came to mind.  I didn’t have the budget for a video at the time, but in faith I put it out there and just asked.  I wanted a high quality video and I had to ask for help from someone who had the equipment and skill that I did not have.  I asked and Stan said, “Yes!”  I asked and I received.  And, by the way, he didn’t charge a dime.  One thing is for sure is that we won’t know if we don’t ask.  So, don’t be afraid to ask for help.  You are not alone.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.   It fact, it takes a strong person to ask others for help.   Asking for help does not make you vulnerable.   You can’t receive unless you ask and open yourself up to receive.  Remember, asking for help is not a sign of failure.  It is a sign of wisdom.  It is a sign of faith.  It is a sign of trust.  Trust, faith, and wisdom build character and, you can’t lose when you are becoming more virtuous.

7. Asking Is a Way to Give More

And, finally, getting into the competition was in essence “asking for something more out of life.” But, more importantly for me, it was a way to potentially give more too.  So, why then is it so hard to ask for more out of life  so that we can reach our highest potential?  We’ll cover that in our 6th Lesson Learned from Competing: ‘Integrating  faith and Works.

Lessons Learned from Competing #4: Stay in the Light

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Be the Light!

Whatever invokes your higher nature, honesty, kindness, love, or generosity is light.  The light represents happiness, positive energy, virtuous qualities, noble deeds, faith and hope.  Whatever increases your energy, makes you more virtuous, gives you certitude and hope, and makes you happy and hopeful is light.  Conversely, whatever makes you doubtful, angry, fearful, drained, or want to give up, is nothing but the darkness.  In those instances, all you need to do is turn toward the light.  Think about the light, focus on the light, and with God’s help, BE THE LIGHT!

Be A Well Wisher of Others

As with physical sight, the more light there is, the more you see.  The more you see, the more you believe.  The more you believe, the more you manifest.  It is within the light that our powers strengthen, that our energy increases, that our power of perception is heightened, and our creativity unfolds. One way to stay in the light is to be well-wishers of others.

Darkness Comes in Many Forms

But staying in the light can be a challenge for we are surrounded by darkness.  Darkness, just like light, comes in many forms, greed, competitiveness, resentment, envy, despondency and selfishness.  Whatever entices you to lie, cheat, doubt, fear, be mean, or to hate is just darkness.  The eyes cannot see clearly in darkness. The heart cannot receive in darkness.  The ears cannot hear in darkness, for we were created to see, hear, and feel and our natural senses are stunted in darkness.

When we cannot see we cannot move with certitude and assurance.  We are bound, afraid, and helpless.  But when we spot a ray of light, our spirit is refreshed, hopeful again, and joyful. The possibility to get a show on the Oprah Winfrey Network was a ray of light and hope.  At first I hesitated because many other competition type shows seemed to bring out the worst in people.  My life mission is to stay in the light and help as many people as I can to do the same.  One of my sons even questioned my understanding of “competition” when I told him I had voted for several other “competitors”.

Compete Against Yourself and Not Others

Life is a constant test, but mostly within our beings. You see, I choose to believe that I am only competing against myself, against my very best.  Each one of the other contestants is putting forth their ideas and dreams and hoping to win too.  I can genuinely appreciate them and wish them well and still be in the same game.

I can’t resent their success and expect to attract blessings and light to myself. So, to make sure that I was not envious or jealous of the front runners, I said a little prayer for each of their success.

Choose What You Will Allow in Your Spiritual Space

In the midst of writing this section on staying in the light, I got a phone call from someone asking if I was staying in the competition in spite of the controversy.  First of all, I hadn’t heard of any controversy.  Secondly after she shared it with me, it did not make me feel better. I could feel my energy draining and my excitement waning.  Just listening to the negativity was pulling me out of the light, so I just stopped it.  I’d have to do this often as some would contact me to ask why I got in the game so late or to ask somberly how I was doing.  It was as if they were watching the scores and wondered if I understood the odds.   But, I’d already decided to get in the game.  I’d already defined winning.  I had chosen to stay in the light, so I had to make a conscious effort to choose what I would allow into my spiritual space.  Once I made the mental shift, I began to see new ideas on how to get more visibility.   Later that day I got a few more distressing calls, but I still managed to stay in the light in spite of them.  One reason I was able to remain encouraged was because of all the positive people who were showing up to help me.   And that’s the topic of our next lesson, asking for help.   I’d like to close with these words spoken by Nelson Mandela at his inauguration, but written by Marianne Williamson, in ‘A Return to Love’

‘Excerpt from ‘A Return to Love’

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”   Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.  Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We were all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to manifest the Glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us: it’s in everyone.  And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence liberates others.”

Until Next Time, “May God shine a light on the path to your dreams.”
Barbara

The 3rd Grace: Helpful Committed People

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There are now only 3 days left in the competition since it ends July 3rd.  My caretaker duties have usurped much of my time and I haven’t been able to do much that I’ve wanted to do to get people to vote for me.  But, I’ve always believed that if you do the right thing,  the right thing comes to you.  That brings me to my third grace, wonderful committed friends.

I think it was Mary Crowley of Home Interiors who once said something to the effect that she’d trade any number of ‘interested people’ for just one committed person.  That’s my third grace.  I have a lots of friends that were interested in my success, but I had a few family members and a few friends that were committed.  Thank you Betty, Linda, April,  Teisha, Gile, Gille, Michelle, Larry, Shawn, Brian, and Radiance.  And a huge debt of gratitude to Roya, Maxine, Tony, Kedicja, and Clif.   Let me explain the difference.  My committed friends were willing to stand out in front of the metro and hand out voting instructions.  They were willing to go door to door, to stay up late calling and emailing friends and voting for me.  They are willing to consult with, encourage, and go the journey with me.  I could scarcely believe how much they loved me and wanted my success.  They gave me the strength to keep pushing even as the top vote getter’s votes soared over 9 million.  What was so beautiful about that is that one lady had not even met me and called me daily for flyers to pass out at the metro.  It doesn’t get much better than that.  Grace is being loved and supported and I have that!  The competition isn’t even over yet and I feel like I’m the big winner because of my wonderful supportive friends and family.

So this month, my newsletter is sparse, with just one article.  July will be a whopper sharing the outcome of the competition as well as the lessons learned from the endeavor.  Meanwhile, would you check out my video, vote for me, and tell your friends.  I’m still holding on to the dream.  You can vote many times.  Thanks in advance.  In conclusion, I’ve learned that we can get anything we want in life if we just help enough other people get what they want.  Thank you

Part 7B: Success And Money Are Spiritual Matters (Biblical References)

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Ask for The Wisdom and Knowledge to Serve Better and You Will Receive Riches

Continued from Part 1: Success and Money http://wp.me/ppImQ-rV

Napoleon Hill in his ‘Philosophy of Success” mentions the importance of consciously:

  1. Choosing what we want,
  2. Asking for it specifically,
  3. Promising what service we will do in exchange for our dreams,
  4. Reciting the goal and the promise we’ve made at least  a dozen times a day and,
  5. Always praying after the recitation of the request and the promise for wisdom and understanding .

In  fact he states that the secrets of his success was that he prayed (not for riches), but instead for more wisdom and knowledge to use the gifts and talents that he had been given at birth.  I know this to be truth because I found confirmation of his very prayer in the King James Bible.  We are admonished to ask, believe, and we will receive, but the following verse describes specifically what we are  to ask for.

Chronicle 2 in the King James Bible shares a story of Solomon.  “1:10 Give me now wisdom and knowledge, that I may go out and come in before this people: for who can judge this thy people, that is so great?

1:11 And God said to Solomon, Because this was in thine heart, and thou hast not asked riches, wealth, or honour, nor the life of thine enemies, neither yet hast asked long life; but hast asked wisdom and knowledge for thyself, that thou mayest judge my people, over whom I have made thee king: 1:12 Wisdom and knowledge is granted unto thee; and I will give thee riches, and wealth, and honour, such as none of the kings have had that have been before thee, neither shall there any after thee have the like.”

Wealth and Riches Are Gifts, Appreciate Them!

I’d personally like to add a #6 to the list above and that is to be grateful, for we know that it is a grateful heart that attracts blessings to us, and not a fearful, desperate, angry, entitled, arrogant, hateful, or ungrateful heart.

Many people are reluctant to set monetary goals for fear of sacrificing an even greater eternal life.  But in the King James Bible 1Timonthy verse 6:10, it clearly states that it is the love of money, not the money that is the problem.   “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.”   The key here is to desire service first and the money will come and to not “err from the faith.”  But Ecclesiastes 5:19, states, “Every man also to whom God hath given riches and wealth, and hath given him power to eat thereof, and to take his portion, and to rejoice in his labour; this is the gift of God.” I think it is important to understand that we are free to use our riches in whatever way we choose, but also have the responsibility to only take our portion.  That implies sharing the rest with others.

To continue to Part 8- Mid-Year Checkup, click here  http://wp.me/ppImQ-sv

Part 1: May Day-(SOS) Motivation to the Rescue

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Your Dreams Demand Your Urgent Attention Now

The term May Day or SOS is an urgent call for help. What’s so urgent, you ask?  Your dreams need an urgent intervention.  YOU are the emergency!  The clock is ticking on your dreams.  The universe is calling you, and you have put her on hold for far too long.

We are already half way through 2010 so I thought I’d send out an urgent SOS on your behalf to the universe to send help to you. A sense of urgency is  a prerequisite to realizing any dream and igniting energy and support.

I Hope It’s Not Too Late

I hope it’s not too late!  I hope you haven’t already given up on your dreams!  I hope you know that anything is possible if you believe.  I hope you haven’t allowed the lukewarm reception of others, their negative opinions, their doubts, their fears of the lack of practicality of your dreams, or their refusal to encourage or support you, to cause you to give up.  I hope you know that you deserve greatness, joy, peace, and work you can be passionate about and you deserve it NOW!  To continue to Part 2: http://wp.me/ppImQ-qf

c) 2010, Barbara S. Talley- All Rights Reserved

Barbara Talley is a keynote speaker, author of six books, and trainer on value-based living themes.  She also offers Effective Communication, Diversity, Leadership, Time Management, and Goal Setting workshops.  Visit her at www.thepoetspeaks.com or contact her at 301-428-4831.  You may email her at Barbara@ThePoetSpeaks.com.