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Choice Words Change Lives

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Choosing to be nicer not only makes us attractive to others, but it also makes us more productive, healthier, and stronger.  Experts like Losada, Emoto, and Hawkins advocate the importance of being in the positive  or nice zone.  At work, Losada teaches that we need at least 3 (actually 2.97) positive interactions to one negative interaction to be productive.  Masuru Emoto, in ‘Hidden Messages in Water’ proves in his research that our cellular structures are actually changed by the words we use and the thoughts we think.  And finally David Hawkins in ‘Power versus Force’ teaches that there is a different energy frequency associated with our words and emotions.  The “nicer” words and qualities give us power, while the nastier qualities make us weaker.   It could even save your marriage!  Gottman’s research discovered that couples who had a ratio of five or more positive interactions to one negative interaction stayed together after his 10-year research while other marriages were in trouble.

Nice Matters

You can change your life by changing your words, nice matters.  We can all improve; to get started carry around a notebook the next few days and take note of how kind your words are.  Are they forgiving or intolerant?  Are they judgmental or complimentary? Do they uplift or dishearten?  Do they encourage or dampen the other person’s spirit?  In short, do your words soothe and inspire the soul of the person hearing them?  Also notice the reactions to your words.  Are they smiling or frowning?  Are they happy or sad?  In closing, we’ll get more of our needs met by being nice and we’ll also like that person in the mirror a whole lot more.  With so many things that are out of our control, isn’t it heartwarming to know that some things still are?

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Put Your Best Fruit Forward

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Are Your Fruits Good?

What is the content of your character? Are you known for your honesty, compassion, fairness, love, faithfulness, patience or hospitality.  Are your fruits good?  Why not pick a fruit (or virtue) and really harvest it this year.  Genesis states that when the world was created, God remarked after each creation, that “it was good.”  We should get in the habit of doing the same thing.  Whether you believe or not, we must agree that if we are to put something into the universe, it should be good or the best we have to offer.  Depending on whether we are manifesting the fruits of our higher nature or our lower nature, our fruits may be good or bad.

To Be Good- Be Aware

Our rational mind or intellect gives us the power to create both good and bad.  Consequently, we must be alert and aware at all times.  We must be careful to align ourselves with people who have our values  and remember that we are influenced by the company we keep. If we are not alert, it will be even more difficult to see the truth about ourselves and others.  Instead of using our mind power and following our own instincts and intuition we may be tempted to simply follow the crowd.  Be true to yourself.  With the unlimited power to create that we have been endowed with, it is not acceptable to hide behind our veils, masks, and fears.  The only way we’re going to manifest our best selves is to put our best fruit forward and be good, honest, and true.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out my promo sheet or visit  my website.