Category Archives: Motivation

Dream Derailer#2a: Ignoring the Body’s Real Needs

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Your dreams and goals can be derailed if you forget to take care of business.  I’m not talking about getting your hair and nails done, clothing yourself with the best, entertaining the body, or even the abode, trinkets, or transportation you work so hard for to make the body comfortable. “There are only three gross substances that we consciously take in to support our life process: food, air, and water,” wrote Gabriel Cousens in his best-selling book ‘Spiritual Nutrition.’

If we don’t eat, we die.

So, obviously eating is critically important.  And if eating is critically important, it stands to reason that what we eat is critically important as well. There are healthy foods and unhealthy foods.  Just as you would not put any type of gas into your car, you should not put just anything into your body.  There are super-foods and junk foods.  There are live foods and dead foods. We must make eating a conscious affair and be aware of what we are putting into our temples if we want to be healthy, energized, and pain-free.

If we don’t breathe, we die.

If breath is vital to life, and it is, clearly the quality and quantity of the air we take in is also vitally important.  How many times have you caught yourself holding your breath?  Our body needs oxygen to live.  We must get outside and breathe fresh air.  I love yoga because it forces me to breathe deeply, to send oxygen to all parts of my body, to relax, to tune into my spirit life force, and to mentally let go of the negative forces around me. Everyone is aware of the negative impact of pollution and air quality, but few are willing to acknowledge their contribution. Check out Annie Leonard’s video for a wake-up call on our role in trashing our planet.  Then answer the question, “Are you contributing to or fighting against the polluting of our planet?  Finally, we must be conscious of the water we are drinking.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #1- No Energy (continued)

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The Body, Mind, and Spirit Are Partners

Your body, mind, and spirit all require energy.  If your body is tired, run down, exhausted, or drained,  you can’t do your best work or in some cases can’t do much at all.  If you lack spirit and are dispirited, discouraged, depressed, or disheartened, you won’t be able to do what you want to do either.  The spirit gives us the will to do something.  That’s why they say, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” And if there is no will, there is no way you will succeed.   Many physically healthy people don’t have the will to do something about their dreams.  And many intelligent and spiritually minded people are not healthy and have no energy. The mind,  body and the spirit are partners and all must be taken well care of if you want to be able to succeed in this life.

Inspiration is Energy

You’ve got to keep yourself inspired and you’ve got to keep yourself healthy.  In my book, ‘The Excitement of value-based Living’ I discuss twelve sources of energy creation and energy drain.  I’ll share just a few here.  For the body, we must eat healthy foods, exercise, and get plenty of fresh air and sunshine.  For the mind and spirit, we must pray, meditate, spend time consciously thinking, and have worthy noble goals.  If you take the time to take care of your mind, body, and spirit, you’ll have the energy you need when you need it.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Dream Derailer #1- No Energy

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Most people don’t consider their energy when they set their goals.  They think about what they want, who and what they need to know or do, and some pray and ask for guidance.  But, even extremely committed, organized, talented, or spiritual people will fail if they don’t consider their health and energy.  I don’t care how many goals you have or even how well you manage your time, if you don’t have the energy, your goals are derailed.

Three Kinds of Energy Are Required

There are many kinds of energy: physical, mental, and spiritual.  Spiritual energy provides the inspiration, motivation, intuition, and faith.   Mental energy provides the clarity and certitude we need to plan our work efficiently and to work our plan.  And finally there is the physical energy.  Most people forget about their energy. They fail to understand the synergistic relationship between their mind, body, and soul.  All three must be healthy if we are to have the mental, spiritual, and physical energy we need that is critical for our success.  Regrettably, so many are so focused on their work that they forget to take care of themselves.  They only miss their health when it’s gone.  But, that won’t be you, because now you know better.   To continue article.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

My Success Formula (pt 5d)- Expectations and Emotional Congruency

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(From 5c: Emotions and Expectations)

When Our Emotions and Expectations Are Congruent, We Excel!

Do you expect success?  Do you feel successful?  You attract what you feel.  Are your thoughts affirming of your success?  Are your conversations focused on your successful outcome, devoid of fear and instead confident of the outcome?  Are your actions congruent with your dreams, thoughts, and words?  If not, you can sabotage your results.  And while most people can understand the rationale for making sure that their thoughts, words, and actions are congruent, they rarely think about or understand the importance of emotional congruence.   Expectations have an emotional component.  A quick Google search of emotions and success revealed over 17 millions results!

You Can’t Fake It.

You might fool others, but you can’t fool yourself.  Emotions are our internal honesty meter.  When we’re moving closer to our dreams we are happier; when moving away from them, we’re sadder.  We know the difference between excitement and fear, between expectation and dread, and between confidence and doubt.  Emotions are our guides to living authentically.  Don’t ignore your feelings for they provide you important feedback about your current state.  That’s why some say, “If it feels right and moral, keep doing it.”  If doesn’t feel right, pause, reflect, investigate and be in a constant mood of learning and flexibility.  We should be like our GPS systems that say, “Recalculating,” whenever we’ve missed a turn and not berate ourselves when we get off track.

Our Emotions and Expectations Should Match

Emotions emit a certain frequency and have the power of attraction. Our emotions should match our beliefs and expectations.  You could think, speak, and act in a certain way, and not feel it and this would be hypocrisy.  Our feelings are the only part of the formula that must be real.  You can’t fake excitement.  You either are or you aren’t.  You can’t fake anticipation; either you are expecting something to happen or you aren’t!  In fact, our feelings are in many cases the real drivers in our journey towards success.  They can get us there quickly or cause us to get lost.   Our feelings influence our thoughts, words, and deeds.  If we feel good, feel confident, feel invincible, or feel certain, our thoughts, words, and actions are one way.  However, if we feel doubtful, weak, or fearful, we are very likely thinking very different kinds of  thoughts. (Continue to Part 6 of My Success Formula: ACTION!

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

My Success Formula (pt 5b)- Expectations and Emotions

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(From 5a: Expectations)

I believe that fear is the most powerful negative motivator and faith is the most powerful positive motivator.   Some might say love and hate because faith is rooted in love and hate is rooted in fear.  We do what we do to move towards that which we love and away from that which we hate or fear.   I assert that most of our actions are faith-based or fear-based.    While you could potentially have the same outcome, acting out of fear is more stressful and a lot less enjoyable.  For example, you might stay in school because you fear joblessness and poverty, but it would be far better experience to stay in school because you love learning.

Emotions Can Motivate or Manipulate

The media does that to us all the time.   They use fear tactics to get us to act in a certain way.  But, while fear can motivate us to act, it can also paralyze us.  How many times have you neglected to go after a dream because you convinced yourself that you would fail.  You allowed your own fear or someone else’s opinion to stop you from pursuing your dreams.

Faith Is A Greater Motivator

Faith is a far greater motivator, can “move mountains,” and can give the advantage to the underdog.  When we get hyped up we release powerful endorphins that can give us an emotional boost. When you pursue a goal that you care about with faith, you create radiant energy and excitement.   Emotions matter; what we feel, we give energy to!  Until we actually feel it, some say we will not see it.  When we expect something, we anticipate that something will happen beforehand.   To anticipate means to think, speak, act, or feel an emotional response in advance.  ‘In Advance‘ are the key words, which mean we must begin thinking, speaking, acting, and feeling before we manifest our dreams. If we really believe and expect success, we must do what we must to feel it!  That is why sales people spend millions of dollars advertising their products, they want you to feel what the actors are feeling.  They know that when we associate their products to a feeling, we’ll buy it.  And, so it is with our own goals and dreams.   If we don’t feel it, it isn’t yet real to us and our success is not certain.  Continue to 5c: More on Expectations and Emotions

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.