You Are Here But Where Is That?

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You are here!  Most people are familiar with the maps in most malls  that show you where you are now or the GPS maps that have the red star showing you where you are going.  You must find where you are now and then locate your destination before you can figure out in which direction you need to go.

What Are Your Reference Points?

Reference points are critical to getting to any destination in life and you need at least three: 1) A Destination, 2) A Starting Point, and 3) A Plan.  You are here and you are on your way somewhere!  But where; do you know?  One of my favorite songs of all time is Diana Ross’s ‘Mahogany’ from ‘Lady Sings the Blues.’  The lyrics that always motivate me to be aware and proactive are:  “Do you know where you’re going to?  Do you like the things that life is showing you?  Do you know? Now looking back at all the past, we let so many dreams just slip through our hands.”  The words make me realize that time is precious and  that if we idle too long in indecision, fear,  and doubt that we can lose out.  What dreams are slipping through your hands right now?  Do you know?  Click to continue reading about ‘Where Are You Going?’

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

Too Busy? So What! Ten Tips to Get What You Want

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Okay, so you don’t have the time looking at your calendar.  But who does?  If it’s something we really want to do, we can and will find the time.  Where will you find the time, you ask? On your calendar!  Just decide what’s on your calendar that is less important or less urgent than the goal you want to focus on now!  And, don’t worry if your schedule is tight, some of my best work has been done under pressure.  In fact all of my six books were only completed when I gave myself an urgent deadline.  There seems to be some power in making a request urgent, otherwise it keeps getting put off waiting for the perfect time.

There Is No Perfect Time- Only Now!

Go on, commit and set a date.  It gets the juices going.  So, get busy realizing your goals.  You’re probably familiar with the adage, “If you want something done, give it to a busy person.”  Busy people get things done because they HAVE to schedule their time.  Last year this time I was busy  and had plans for the next day.   But then, I got a request from a client the night before to put together some training for teaching a course in Hawaii.  The request had everything it needed to peak my  interest. The only challenge was that I had to put the info together in less than 24 hours.  It was clearly an urgent request.  Did I get it done, You betcha!

  1. Decide what you want.  Make sure it’s something that you’re interested in doing.  If you don’t whole-heartedly commit, you’ll find yourself procrastinating more.  Just make a decision and commitment.
  1. Create a plan of action.  You might want to consult with others, get info, and do some prep work.  Your pre-planning work will help you to set a realistic date that you can commit to.
  2. Decide when you want to realize your goal and SET YOUR COMPLETION DATE!  Put it on your calendar.  Remember you can always change the date, but you’ll never hit a target if you don’t have one.
  3. Tell folks. Have people in your court to remind, encourage, and support you.
  4. Schedule your individual tasks too.  Put them on your calendar.  Take them seriously.
  5. Begin immediately to do something every single day that will move you closer to your goal.
  6. Cross off each completed task.  This self-satisfaction will keep you moving.
  7. Decide on a specific amount of time you will work on that project each day. 30 minutes? 1 hour? 2 hours?  Then set your timer and stay on it until you’ve worked the agreed upon amount of time.
  8. Focus!- Limit distractions.  Set yourself up for success.
  9. Finish- Keep at it until you’ve reach your goal.  Now reward yourself.

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

The Power of A Date

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Want to achieve a specific goal by a specific time? Then put a date on it.  The more urgent the date, the greater chances that you will achieve it. Most of you are aware of my desire to have my own television show.  Since the Oprah competition last year, I have been taking classes in field production, studio technician, Finalcut Pro Editing,  and studio production.  After the competition ended, I immediately signed up for the next class and have been taking them for the past year.  I decided that I wanted to launch my show in September.  Deciding to do something is not enough.  I had decided last year, but just yesterday I filled out the final paperwork,  and selected a date for my first show on the local cable MCM Channel 19.  The date is September 24, 2011.  Although I had been preparing for years, it finally felt real when I set the date.  I told them that when the Oprah people call, I’ll have to bow out.  So, even though I’m on hold for a part on OWN network, I’m proceeding on with my own plan.

Go on, Commit and Set A Date.

So what do you want to accomplish? Is it important?  Does it excite you?  You can keep hoping and wishing or you can set a date.  Just setting the date gets the juices going.  So, get busy now realizing your goals.  You’re probably familiar with the adage, “If you want something done, give it to a busy person.”  Busy people get things done because they HAVE to schedule their time.  I was busy yesterday and had plans for today.   But then, I got a request from a client last night to put together some training for teaching a course in Hawaii in August.  The request had everything it needed to peak my  interest. The only challenge was that I had to put the info together in less than 24 hours.  It was clearly an urgent request.  Did I get it done? You betcha!  Click to read about 10 Tips I Learned About Getting Things Done!

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

My Profound Realization That Changes Everything!

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Asking is not enough!  You don’t always receive what you think you asked for and here’s probably why.  A profound realization I’ve come to is that it is not so much WHAT we ask for, but HOW we ask for it.  Words are not the only tool for asking; our actions are an even more powerful communicator.  Our emotional energy is powerful and reflects our desires and faith.   It’s clear that people ask for things all the time and don’t get them (or so they think.)  Now listen clearly for this is the pearl of wisdom that I think profoundly changes everything.    We must also ask with faith, with trust, and with belief.  That’s the secret ingredient!  

Belief Is A Seed That Grows With Action

Spiritual teachers have always taught that we don’t even have to have  that much faith (just enough as the size of a mustard seed), but we do have to have some faith.  Hope is the first sign of faith and must be coupled with trust.   That means we have to BELIEVE! We must have faith in the outcome.  If I ask for something feeling doubtful or fearful, I’m likely to get the thing I doubt or fear instead of the think I want.  Fear is a powerful attractor, but faith is even more powerful.  So when asking for what you want, make sure that your faith is stronger than your fear because you attract what you feel the strongest about, not what you want most.  Fear and doubt are actually belief that the worst will come to past.  Why not believe instead that the best outcome will be realized?  Belief is a seed that grows with action.  You nurture that seed of belief when you pray, brainstorm, plan, expect, and act like it has already been given to you.  You then have little time to worry, complain, or cry about what is.  When you believe, you act differently than you do when you feel hopeless. Remember, “Anything you ask for believing, you shall achieve.” [Bible]

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.

ASK and Ye Shall RECEIVE? Not Necessarily!

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“Ask and ye shall receive!” Can it be that easy?  If this statement is true then what you are receiving must have been what you asked for, right?  Or, there must be something more to it.  Let’s go down the list: work, family, health, relationships, wealth, service, and soul.  What are you receiving in each of these life areas? Is it what you asked for?

What has manifested from your request or a lack of a clear, specific request?

What you see is an indication of what you must have been asking for.  Keep in mind that you do not just ask for things in words only, for words often lie and contradict what you really think, feel, expect, or believe.  We ASK or show the universe our desires by where we place our energies.  Our desires are reflected in what we think about, talk about, worry about, pray about, love or hate,  and fear or trust.  Think about your most recent conversation, what was it about?  If you are not conscious of asking for what is now present in your life, then it must have been an indirect request to the universe.  Reflect on how you feel right now.  What is it likely to show up or manifest in your life if those feeling were a magnet?  Many are probably doubting that you get what you ask for.  You’re thinking, I did not ask for this layoff, this breakup, or this illness.  But, perhaps you did, not realizing it.  There has to be something more to it than just asking and I believe that something is even more important! Click to read about the profound realization that changes everything!

I’m Barbara Talley, the poet who speaks and inspires.  To find out more about me check out: What Does Barbara Do? or visit  my website.