JOY Cometh in The Morning

2010 is coming to a close and like a fierce winter making its tenacious exit, ” my 2010 seems to insist on “going out like a lion.”  But, like the natural and eventual seasonal exit of winter, we must not forget that spring is always on the horizon, even it we can’t quite see it yet.  And, all the divine  grace and  seeds we’ve planted are germinating and destined to break forth in the Spring with an abundant harvest.

Believe It and You Will See It

It is faith that reminds us of our own personal spring and it is only faith that will cause our spring to appear.  And when we “believe it, we will see it.”   The birds, the trees, and the plants don’t judge or doubt their winters or their springs!  You see the birds flying south, the squirrels burying their acorns, and the trees willingly and without a fight allowing their leaves and fruits to be stripped from their limbs.  The trees bend with the winds and in due time her blossoms return.  Nature knows it is the order of things.  We must be more like the lesser kingdoms.

Nothing Lasts Forever

Whether you are feeling anger or sadness, you must remember that this too shall pass.  “Life is in our favor” and joy is promised and on the horizon.  I leave you with this verse from Psalms:  “For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. ” (King James Bible)

12 Ways to Overcome the FEAR of Entrepreneurship (Part 2)

Part two of ‘How to Not Be Afraid to Go Into Business‘ discusses the next four considerations:  Faith, Relationships, Benefits, Learning from Mistakes.

  1. Faith Will Get You Through– I had to focus on the benefits of being in business not the challenges of being in business.  I had to believe in and focus on the my goal.  The challenges will come anyway in time, so deal with them then.  To focus on the problems in  advance is called “worry” and is a waste of your precious and limited time. Armed with only a vision, a dream, and the support of my husband, I went into business.  I had been working for years doing computer training and getting contracts for other firms.  I had to have faith that it was possible to do the same for myself.  But the first and most important person I had to convince was myself.  I had to believe in myself and my abilities.  I had to make a decision and put all my faith and energy behind it through action.
  2. Hang Around People Who Are Business Minded– If you ask someone who is not in business for encouragement, you may not get the support you need.  Ask someone who is already in business for encouragement, advice, and guidance.   Would you ask someone who has never traveled if you should travel?  Would you ask someone who has never had children if you should have them or how to raise them?  Would you ask someone who dropped out of school if you should get a higher education and how to go about it?  I think I’ve made my point.  Associate with people who have been where you want to go or who are currently going in the same direction you are.
  3. Must Have Something of Benefit to Offer Others- It’s easier to go into business if you are convinced you have something of benefit to offer others.  Learn about the unique benefits you have to offer and then “share” those benefits with your potential customers.  Don’t focus so much on the money or selling, but instead on the service.  Most people fear “selling” their wares, but it is not selling if people need it.  You are servicing people when you offer them what they need at a fair price and with superior quality.  In fact, the Baha’i Faith describes this as “worship”, any service performed in the spirit of service and done to excellence.
  4. Learn from Your Mistakes–  Just stay in the mood of learning.  Of course you will make mistakes, but that’s part of growing.  The tree most pruned bears the best fruit, right?   Just don’t give up.  In fact, it isn’t a mistake if you learn something.  Every challenge you overcome builds more confidence.

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   To find more about me, check out my promo sheet or visit  my website.

Give Thanks for the People in Your Life

Thanksgiving 2010, the Talley family had a different kind of celebration.  Instead of food being the focus, our thoughts were on giving thanks for the people still in our lives and for the life of a very special nephew, Larry Daniel Talley. Lil Larry was killed after being thrown from a motorcycle just a few blocks from his home.  The graphic tribute below was created by his loving niece Indiah.

Ironically, he was taking a final spin before selling his bike that afternoon, but tragically it turned out to be his “final spin.”  And, at the age of 33, he was laid to rest on Friday, November 26, 2010, surrounded by an outpouring of love rarely experienced while one is still alive.

Make Everyone Feel Special

How was he able to attract over 600 people (some say almost 1000 with those who came and left) from around the country to his funeral in less than five days?  I think, probably because everyone who knew him felt his love for them.  He made everyone he knew feel special.  When you were around him, you knew you mattered to him. We affectionately called him ‘Lil Larry,’ but there was nothing little about him, he always had “big tales to tell, a big smile, a big laugh, and an even bigger heart.   He took the time to regularly connect with everyone, family, friends, and strangers alike.  Nothing was more important to him than family, he loved his family, and we knew it.

Don’t Wait to Show You Care

Why do we wait to let people know how much they mean to us until it is too late?  In the funeral service held for Mrs. Frances Barnes two months prior, the choir sang a song that left a lasting impression on me.  The lyrics, “Give me flowers while I can still see them; say kind words to me while I can still hear them,” still ring in my ears because of their profundity.  I learned similarly profound lessons from the lives or deaths of  Lil Larry, Mrs. Frances Coley, and Mrs. Jacquelyn Lefton.  Reflecting on ‘what we remember’ when a loved one passes on offers important lessons for this life and how we should live.  What will people remember about you?  [View a video tribute of  my nephew Lil Larry’s  life]

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   To find more about me, visit:  www.thepoetspeaks.com

3. WIN: Redefine What Winning Means

Who Says Winning or Losing Are the Only Two Options?

In this dichotomous society we give the adventurous only two choices, win or lose.  That means, to win, someone has to lose.  No one likes to lose, so the majority just refuse to play at all and relegate themselves to the mundane, certain, boring, and less challenging pursuits in life.   But you don’t have to play by those rules.

Write Your Own Rules

Define or redefine, or be defined! Write your own definition and rules!  After all you have free will.  You have choice.  You are responsible for you!  Some rules are advantageous to follow, but some are self-limiting.  If the old rules are working for you, keep following them.  If not, CHANGE them!  I refuse to see myself as a loser!  I choose to approach every new opportunity (race) as a new path to unlimited potential possibilities.  I define anyone with enough faith in themselves to pursue their dreams or a challenging opportunity as already a winner!  I define winning as any pursuits that open me up to new possibilities, (different ideas, new opportunities, new ways of thinking and being, diverse people, or new paradigms.)   Now with that definition, I will always win and win big!

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   To find more about me, visit:  www.thepoetspeaks.com

2. WIN: Improve on Your Own Personal Best.

Practice Makes Perfect

In the old definition of winning, we have to define a target to compete against and overtake that person in order to feel like we’ve won.  What kind of world is that?   Why can’t we just compete against our own personal best?  The answer is, we can! No one starts off  ‘perfect‘ so that doesn’t matter so much.  Just  go ahead and start because it is true that ‘practice  makes perfect.’  You’ve got to start somewhere.  Why not focus your energies on being the best you, doing the best you can, enjoying the ride, and competing only against  your own personal best record.   Strive everyday to “be better” than you were and you will continually grow.  And if constant and steady improvement is not winning, I don’t know what is.

Focus Your Energies on Being Your Best

Why not decide right now to go after whatever it is you truly want that brings real meaning into your life and not worry about who is ahead of you or behind you?  The more races I run, the more worn the paths will become and the easier and faster subsequent races will be. What if your goal were to become a little better every single day?  Wouldn’t that be a lot less stressful, contentious, and conflicting?  So get in the race to improve yourself and ignore the naysayers on the sidelines.  And remember, “You’re winning as long as you are in the race.”

I’m Barbara Talley, The Poet who speaks and inspires.   To find more about me, visit:  www.thepoetspeaks.com