Asking is not enough! You don’t always receive what you think you asked for and here’s probably why. A profound realization I’ve come to is that it is not so much WHAT we ask for, but HOW we ask for it. Words are not the only tool for asking; our actions are an even more powerful communicator. Our emotional energy is powerful and reflects our desires and faith. It’s clear that people ask for things all the time and don’t get them (or so they think.) Now listen clearly for this is the pearl of wisdom that I think profoundly changes everything. We must also ask with faith, with trust, and with belief. That’s the secret ingredient!
Belief Is A Seed That Grows With Action
Spiritual teachers have always taught that we don’t even have to have that much faith (just enough as the size of a mustard seed), but we do have to have some faith. Hope is the first sign of faith and must be coupled with trust. That means we have to BELIEVE! We must have faith in the outcome. If I ask for something feeling doubtful or fearful, I’m likely to get the thing I doubt or fear instead of the think I want. Fear is a powerful attractor, but faith is even more powerful. So when asking for what you want, make sure that your faith is stronger than your fear because you attract what you feel the strongest about, not what you want most. Fear and doubt are actually belief that the worst will come to past. Why not believe instead that the best outcome will be realized? Belief is a seed that grows with action. You nurture that seed of belief when you pray, brainstorm, plan, expect, and act like it has already been given to you. You then have little time to worry, complain, or cry about what is. When you believe, you act differently than you do when you feel hopeless. Remember, “Anything you ask for believing, you shall achieve.” [Bible]
“Until thought is linked with purpose there is no intelligent accomplishment,” wrote James Allen, author of ‘As a Man Thinketh.’ There have been times in my life that my excitement and energy were so pronounced that people have asked, “What are you on?” I’d respond with, “I’m on purpose!” At those times I was undoubtedly thinking about things that excited me, motivated me, and uplifted me. My vision and perspectives were uplifting and clearly I was thinking about meaningful things, purposeful things, or things that brought me or someone else joy. At those times, I tended to have absolute hope in the future, faith in people, and understood that divine grace was guiding and protecting me.
Elevate Your Thoughts and Elevate Your Reality
Eleanor Roosevelt wrote: “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” I can say for sure when my energy, vision, and excitement are high that I am most certainly NOT thinking about events or gossiping or complaining about people. When my thinking was skewed, I’d fear the future, distrust people and their intentions, and feel all alone and hopeless in my doldrums. But when my thinking is right, that faithful feeling of knowing and of being connected sparks my creativity and solutions to whatever problems I have become clear. The right person, thought, idea, or circumstances seem to appear before me. I’ve learned that if I listen to my guidance and act immediately, that solving whatever problem is before me becomes an exciting journey rather than anxiety driven mission. Even more importantly the “problems” are no longer debilitating but instead become opportunities for growth. Just changing my perspective changed my focus and changing my focus changed my reality. You are the driver and your thoughts can take you anywhere, so be careful and stay alert.
We each have an inner knowing that we must learn to trust and rely upon. On Sunday afternoon I got the inspiration to call my stepmother who is recuperating in a nursing home. It was just a spark in the middle of the day, at a time that thought she’d be at the church service and I almost talked myself out of calling right then. But the impulse was strong and I listened. I called her and she didn’t sound good at all.
She said, “Make the nurses stop drugging me. They are giving me too much medicine. They have me in the hall.” I asked her did she want to be there and she said, “No.” I told her my sister and I would work on it. Then there was silence. The last few conversations we’d had she’d fallen asleep in the middle of the conversation or just asked me to call back because she was tired or sleeping, no matter what time of day it was. When I questioned the nurse I found out she was not in the hall at all, but something was wrong. She was obviously disoriented. I reminded them of her bad heart. They ended up sending her to the hospital for evaluation and deduced that she had had a heart attack. In addition as a dialysis patient she also had elevated calcium and potassium levels. And if that were not enough, she had a bladder infection. So many things were wrong and yet had I not called, they perhaps would have been calling me with that final dreaded call.
I am so grateful that I listened. I had a few deadlines at the time and it was not the best time to stop and spend the afternoon on the phone with nurses, caretakers, doctors, and family. But I’ve learned that when we care, we are guided. When we listen, the eternal source of wisdom speaks to us. When we are “interrupted from our mundane reality,” it’s because something MORE important needs our attention right then. It’s so great to not have to live with, “I wish I would have….” Today’s lesson is to listen, appreciate the intuition, trust it and act on it. Now she’s recuperating in the hospital and on the road to health, we hope!
“What’s that smell?” “I can’t hear myself think!” “Can you turn that down?” “Did someone take my red stapler?” “My lunch is missing?” “What’s that green stuff in the refrigerator?” “Oh My! Please put your shoes back on!”
There are some things that just can’t be ignored when we are in close quarters if we want a productive and harmonious work environment. Unfortunately most people don’t have the luxury of a private office and of having all their co-coworkers be considerate. Whether its’ out of ignorance, social style, or culture, some actions bring productivity to a grinding halt.
What can we do?
How do you tell someone that their food, breath, or body has an offensive odor, or that their music or conversations are too loud, distasteful, or distracting without causing more contention and hurt feelings? I’ve heard stories where people have had others take their lunch out of the refrigerator and eat it, stood over them while they were having a personal conversation, and spoke to them in an unprofessional manner. Some leave a mess in common areas and make it unsanitary and uncomfortable to eat or meet there.
Do You Have A Cubicle or Workplace Story to Share?
Have you ever had to work closely with others and found it to be a challenge? I’m working on a course dealing with cubicle courtesy and would like to hear some of your cubicle stories and how you solved them if you did. Meanwhile enjoy the resources I’ve pulled together for you below.
The library introduced me to Pippi Longstockings. Do you remember getting your first library card and going to the library? I remember looking at all the books and thinking about which one I’d pick to take home. We didn’t have a lot of books in our home growing up, so the library book was really special. I remember being amazed as I grew older that you could take out as many books as you wanted. My favorite series as a child was ‘Pippi Long-stockings.’ She was a girl that lived alone with no parents. I barely remember what the book series was about, but I remember getting excited as I took back each book and got out the next one in the series. I guess I must have identified with her independence for although we had adults in the home, their alcoholism made us have to fend for ourselves a lot of the time. I went on adventures with the red haired pig-tailed Pippi in my mind, thanks to the public library.
So today we’ve got the internet, ipods, and gaming systems to occupy us. And, if we wish to read, we’ve got eBooks, the Nook and Kindle. Recently some of the Borders Books stores closed in my area. That makes you think, are libraries a dying breed? You might think so if you read this piece in the New York Book Review. Charles Simic wrote, “All across the United States, large and small cities are closing public libraries or curtailing their hours of operations. Detroit, I read a few days ago, may close all of its branches and Denver half of its own: decisions that will undoubtedly put hundreds of its employees out of work.” Check out the rest of the article and tell me what you think. What would a world without libraries be like? How has the library affected your life? Well, gotta go now and find my library book that’s been missing for the past week and racking up fines.